Are you tortured by worry, stress, and anxieties but are afraid to try meditation because the marketing hype feels like a scam or even cult lunacy. Or maybe you've tried meditating, and it didn't help, so you quit, and now you don't know what to do.
Well, you are not alone.
The problem is, most meditation instructions give people the wrong goals, causing them to get stuck or detoured away from the life-changing benefits they could get from meditation.
This doesn't have to be your story.
In this article, you will get an explanation of meditation that can really help you.
Plus, the important stuff that most gurus leave out.
You will learn how to properly use your new skills to change your real life outside of meditation.
With this new understanding, you can learn to reduce your mental chaos, stress and anxieties – and much more.
Meditation basics that deliver aha moments
Meditation is a controlled experiment where you sit comfortably in a safe, quiet place, close your eyes and focus your attention on your breath.
Limiting your attention to your breath is very boring and precisely the opposite of how you usually spend your day. You are in the habit of watching exciting movies, thinking about your current problems, opportunities, plans, and your regrets.
When people first try meditation, they always lose their focus on their breath and their attention wanders, or they get so bored they fall asleep. These difficulties are common.
You should calmly refocus your attention on your breath without self-judgments or emotions.
So what are the aha moments?
Meditation is a simple experiment that everyone can easily experience.
Meditation quickly reveals that you habitually think about exciting, emotional, and stimulating topics, or you fall asleep.
Your subconscious mental habits are stronger than your strongest conscious intention.
What a humiliating, if not frightening experience.
Your subconscious mind is so powerful, it might hijack you and drag you through an endless house of horrors, full of your worst fears — a panic attack.
At this point, most people give up, quit meditation, and never face the fact that they are not self-determined.
This reaction is regrettable because it is precisely the wrong decision.
The first aha moment you get from meditation should be that you are not in control of your mind or life. And if you want to have control, you will need to continue meditating.
When you build up the courage to take control of who you are, meditation can help.
Meditation can help you take control of your mind
Meditation is not only an educational experiment but also a training exercise. By meditating regularly, you will gradually increase your ability to focus on your breath.
Meditation is not about fighting your subconscious habits. When you meditate, you are practicing new habits. You are practicing how to direct your attention to the here and now, your breath.
The more you meditate, the more you learn new conscious skills to replace your old subconscious habits.
As you get better at meditating, you are not just increasing your ability to focus on the here and now. You are improving your ability to focus on whatever you choose.
So how does this reduce your troubling worries, stresses, and anxiety?
Now, don't ever think that meditation changes your social and economic problems, your future, or your regrets about your past. Nor will meditation allow you to ignore real problems by always focusing on your breath. Only a small number of your problems are imaginary and disappear when you are in the here and now.
Meditation changes you, not the facts you must face.
The first benefit of meditation is it increases your ability to direct your attention. Then you can decide when and how you think about your problems. Your problems no longer cause constant mental chaos and worry. You are gaining control over when and how you think, increasing your ability to solve your problems.
But to solve your problems, you must develop additional powerful mental skills like those described in the following sections.
The big mistake gurus make about how meditation changes your life
Most meditation gurus tell everyone that meditation teaches you how to be in the NOW and that is the ultimate mind state for success.
Your real life is not a meditation training session.
Your days are filled with activities like driving a car and responding quickly at work when competing with others. Life comes at you at 70 MPH on a freeway and sometimes just as fast at work, or at home. On any day, an inadequate response by you could cost you your life.
I'm not trying to be negative; it's merely a fact of life.
The important take away is that a significant portion of your life and many life-changing events depend on your fast, automatic, and subconscious responses.
Your quick responses are you operating in the “flow.” You know, that mental state where you respond so quickly, smooth and flawlessly that you feel like a God.
Well, the truth is, you're frequently in the flow, but you don't feel like a God because your flow sucks and you crash and burn. But you were still in a flow.
And being in the flow means your responses are automatic, habitual patterns straight out of your subconscious mind.
Don't confuse a flow situation with a meditation session.
In meditation, your subconscious mind obediently follows your conscious mind and watches your breath. You are in the here and now with your conscious mind managing your thoughts.
But flow situations are where your conscious mind steps aside and lets your subconscious mind do its thing. Yes, you are also in the here and now, but your conscious mind is not calling the shots because it's too slow.
Don't turn your life into a meditation session, that would look like a train wreck.
So how does meditation really change your daily life and your flows? That's next.
The proper way to use your new skills from meditation
Continued meditation, increases your understanding and control of your subconscious and conscious minds.
Then you know when to use your fast response subconscious mind instead of your slow methodical but smarter conscious mind.
To prepare for a flow situation, you use your conscious mind to design a smart flow pattern. Then your conscious mind manages the training of your subconscious mind. Your conscious mind is responsible for the entire project of creating a new flow pattern that won't crash and burn.
But this flow training process hints of other skills you can learn from meditation.
The big picture most gurus don't get
Between meditations, you think about your minds, how they work and how you can manage them.
When you consciously think about how your whole mind works, you are looking at the big picture, called meta-cognitive thinking.
Meta-cognitive thinking develops new high-level mind management skills that are much more than merely being in the flow. Much more than being in the here and now. Much more than not being emotionally disturbed. Much more than not making negative judgments. Much more than not suffering from stress, anxiety and other mental health problems.
Your new mind management skills include all the above plus the ability to work at a higher level of consciousness. To be aware of all parts of your mind. To increase your understanding of each part of your mind so you can integrate, organize and optimize their performance as a single powerful organism.
Then you will learn about new mental states and when to use them. You will know when the best approach is a habitual flow, or mind wandering or even worrying. You will be able to go in and out of any mental state at will. You will reap the benefits and avoid the disasters of each mental state.
Meta-cognitive thinking is far superior to limiting yourself to any single mental state.
So what does this mean for your future?
You can change your life with meditation
Now you have a clear, useful explanation of the immediate and easy mental improvements you get from meditation.
Now you have the big picture of how continued meditation will help you develop whole mind management skills.
And you have a glimpse of the unlimited opportunities for improvement of your conscious abilities.
No matter where you are in your meditation practice, this knowledge will point you in the right direction and improve your mental abilities. Then you can better manage your problems, eliminate mental chaos, worries, stress, and anxieties.
Your new powerful mental skills will help you efficiently and effectively solve all your problems and move you toward a happier life.
Now you know how to take charge of your mind and your life.
To learn advanced methods for accelerating your meditation progress, read the article, " A REVOLUTIONARY MEDITATION GUIDE: MATCH TECHNIQUES TO YOUR ABILITIES.” Other articles on the website will also be helpful.